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I'm not worried about dying. Ultimately the properties we have as living conscious people are the result of emergent properties ... they aren't part of the fundamental building blocks of elements we are made of. So who knows, it's possible you die and live again with no memory of any previous existence.
Sssh, don't tell him
It's all going in the right direction
@digitalscream - I think the story about your gran is reassuring - an ideal way to do it. I know this is a personal question so feel free to ignore it - but did she write anything in the letter that acknowledged what was about to happen?
I will deffo go out on a drug OD.
A real shame we cant decide when we go, save pain, time the death for your loved ones, go peacefully, save LOTS of NHS money and pressure in no uncertain terms.
I've meditated on death (death sangha) numerous times, which is a sobering reminder that I won't know anything when it happens, nobody can help me when it happens, etc. - in other words, we have only now, so I try to live my life accordingly. Not in a nihilistic 'don't care' way (I stopped drinking recently and have improved an already decent diet, plus exercise daily) but to fixate less on past/future.
We get only one go. I want to wring out of this life what I can but not in a goal-driven way, more to just enjoy whatever I do, even if it's wasting time chatting shit on a forum.
My band, Red For Dissent
Was thinking something similar this morning as I hung the washing out...took pleasure in the sun shining and the blue sky.
A colleague in work lost her mum to a long term degenerative illness two years ago. My colleague was exceptionally close to her mum - but I think there was a point at which she felt it would have been more compassionate not to continue but it did. For many more months.
It's a tough one. There is of course the religious aspect to it, then there are issues of consent and if that cannot be given or obtained who else should be able to take the responsibility.....
I am more concerned for those left behind as I feel they will probably hold on to more emotion or grief than is necessary, and I suspect certain things will be harder to do and manage without me, but ultimately there's not that much I can do about that, so my job there is to make sure I have an much in place for them as I can. Life insurance and mortgage cover stuff, a will, all my passwords and stuff, and a detailed list of things I have which they could sell (and how much to sell them for), and my preferred location for the inevitable shrine that will be erected in my honour.
They all know what I want for my funeral - cremation, ashes scattered somewhere nice in the countryside (their choice), music will include Wayfaring Stranger, Going Home (words to tune of Dvorak's New World Largo) and Jeff Beck's Somewhere Over the Rainbow.
I don't think there's anything to be worried about for me, I hope that attitude serves me well
Just a thought.
Re death there's heart disease on one side of my family and cancer on the other. I reckon I've got another 10 or 15 years left. I've had a strange relationship with death since 1986 when my brother died age 20.
Live life to the full while you have it.
I wonder if being 'in the moment' virtually has the same soul-enriching benefits as being there physically ...
People don't like to talk about death, so they often don't make proper plans. It's often left for those left behind to try to sort it all out. I've lost count of the number of times I've thought "Oh... mum will know the answer to this!" then realised she's not here anymore and all the knowledge she had is lost to me forever.
Maybe put together an "in case of my death" folder kept in a small fireproof safe, detailing the important information your partner will need should the worst happen. Maybe a personal note or video, your wishes for your funeral.... whatever is important to you. Even if you don't update it in the future, it will still be a lot better than leaving your loved ones guessing at information that you've just taken with you forever.