More conversations with my daughter

DesVegas · September 2023

Both daughters were in a room together which is rare.. I says " is everybody happy? Is anyone being antagonised? " and the eldest says "hmmmm, I'm never really happy " so I says "how about when we high five.. kapow!" And she says "YEAH!"

Boom

DesVegas · September 2023

One Pico second of happyness

dindude · September 2023

My fav recent conversation with my 4 year old girl and 7 year old boy.

Girl: started singing Yellow Submarine she learnt at nursery, I start to sing along.
Boy: do you know this song Dad?
Me: yeah it’s by the Beatles.
Girl: The Beatles???
Boy: yes they’re a pop group from the olden days.
Girl: are they still alive?
Me: some of them are.
Girl (looking really confused how): did someone step on them?

boogieman · September 2023

We’ve got two grandsons, 5 and 2. The 5 year old is currently obsessed with reptiles, the 2 year old loves airplanes. His favourite phrase for anything or one he doesn’t like is “you’re a bad guy!!”

We had the following conversation a couple of weeks ago.

5 : did you know that the Komodo dragon is the biggest reptile?

2 : I like airplanes

5 : yes but god made all the reptiles, he didn’t make airplanes. So reptiles are better.

2 : (getting angry) No!!! My airplanes ARE reptiles!!

5 : no they’re not! Reptiles are god’s creatures.

2 : God is a bad guy!!

Dominic · September 2023

@DesVegas ;
I have daughters .......one that's never happy , I would watch that very cautiously .....don't be fooled that a Hi FIVE makes it all alright
girls ( certainly late teenage ones ) can have a worrying tendency to what used to be called Melancholia
I very nearly died in hospital on Tuesday .....I have felt a sense of euphoria since 11.30 am Tuesday when they confirmed my Aortic Aneurysm was not leaking......it's a joy that feels like being re-born.
They are young with a whole world before them ....they should be full of joy

Fingers657 · September 2023

When daughters hit 14 they become nightmares.
Mine actually apologised when she was 30.

Dominic · September 2023

They are very deep , brooding and quite strange .......not girls and yet not women
Hard work to understand and quite fragile

Deadman · September 2023

My 27 year old daughter has come home “for a bit” because Oxford rent and finding somewhere to live is off the scale ridiculous. I’m flipping loving it and I think she is too. She’d better be bloody gone by Christmas though

nice little thread, cheers for sharing @desvegas ;

Sporky · September 2023

Deadman said:

She’d better be bloody gone by Christmas though

Make sure you specify a year.

MrSwanson · September 2023

boogieman said:

We’ve got two grandsons, 5 and 2. The 5 year old is currently obsessed with reptiles, the 2 year old loves airplanes. His favourite phrase for anything or one he doesn’t like is “you’re a bad guy!!”

We had the following conversation a couple of weeks ago.

5 : did you know that the Komodo dragon is the biggest reptile?

2 : I like airplanes

5 : yes but god made all the reptiles, he didn’t make airplanes. So reptiles are better.

2 : (getting angry) No!!! My airplanes ARE reptiles!!

5 : no they’re not! Reptiles are god’s creatures.

2 : God is a bad guy!!

2 year old makes some valid points

boogieman · September 2023

Fingers657 said:

When daughters hit 14 they become nightmares.
Mine actually apologised when she was 30.

Mine was 15 when she hit the nightmare patch. Unfortunately it lasted till she was about 22.

She’s 28 now, has a daughter coming up for a year old and has actually turned out to be a nicely rounded human being.

Axe_meister · September 2023

Yeah my step daughter has just rejoined the human race at 24. She left when she was 14.

digitalscream · September 2023

Axe_meister said:

Yeah my step daughter has just rejoined the human race at 24. She left when she was 14.

This is pretty much my experience. She actually had a couple of years in the middle when she left home in a hail of bullets, moved to her grandmother's, and they both tried to convince my wife that I had a whole other family. She actually worked at the same company as me (a job that I got her), and said it was well-known that I only worked two days a week and the rest of the time I was in Nottingham with the other family.

I worked 100% from home. As did my wife.

Oh, the absolute corker - apparently I had Swiss bank accounts making me independently wealthy, but I'd only spend that money on the other family.

I mean...where the fuck did I find the time for all this? And where the hell has all my money gone?

axisus · September 2023

I have 2 daughters, 22 and 18, both still living with us and it’s a lot of fun. They have such a laugh together, and spend a lot of their time sitting either side of the dining room table in our open plan house. They never had the bad phase, it’s all been great right the way through. They fall about laughing at times, sing together, burst into that song from Frozen when they both say the same thing (often). Joyful times.

Offset · September 2023

digitalscream said:

Axe_meister said:

Yeah my step daughter has just rejoined the human race at 24. She left when she was 14.

This is pretty much my experience. She actually had a couple of years in the middle when she left home in a hail of bullets, moved to her grandmother's, and they both tried to convince my wife that I had a whole other family. She actually worked at the same company as me (a job that I got her), and said it was well-known that I only worked two days a week and the rest of the time I was in Nottingham with the other family.

I worked 100% from home. As did my wife.

Oh, the absolute corker - apparently I had Swiss bank accounts making me independently wealthy, but I'd only spend that money on the other family.

I mean...where the fuck did I find the time for all this? And where the hell has all my money gone?

Errrm... do you still talk to her grandmother?!

Fingers657 · September 2023

My daughter makes the best Sunday Roast & Christmas Roast dinner.
lovely gravy.
I miss not having that so often.

digitalscream · September 2023

Offset said:

digitalscream said:

Axe_meister said:

Yeah my step daughter has just rejoined the human race at 24. She left when she was 14.

This is pretty much my experience. She actually had a couple of years in the middle when she left home in a hail of bullets, moved to her grandmother's, and they both tried to convince my wife that I had a whole other family. She actually worked at the same company as me (a job that I got her), and said it was well-known that I only worked two days a week and the rest of the time I was in Nottingham with the other family.

I worked 100% from home. As did my wife.

Oh, the absolute corker - apparently I had Swiss bank accounts making me independently wealthy, but I'd only spend that money on the other family.

I mean...where the fuck did I find the time for all this? And where the hell has all my money gone?

Errrm... do you still talk to her grandmother?!

Don't take this the wrong way, but...thankfully, she's dead.

Honestly, she was the nastiest, most hateful evil person I've ever encountered in person. She's the one who fed all that crap to our daughter over a period of years to set it all up. She spent 20 years trying to split us up, and 45 years ruining my wife's life.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg (probably not a story for this thread).

tone1 · September 2023

Fingers657 said:

When daughters hit 14 they become nightmares.
Mine actually apologised when she was 30.

Yep, we called ours Moody Margaret…..

grungebob · September 2023

Mines currently 7.

Today during the BBQ she asked a question I wasn’t prepared for

“Dad, were did the first people come from”
”eh, you what?”
”well if all babies become adults and only adults can have babies, then where did the first babies come from?”

”er, here do you want some chicken?”

two beers in and not prepared.

drofluf · September 2023

@grungebob you’ve got a bright one there. Congratulations!

But no useful advice to give from me.

Kittyfrisk · September 2023

grungebob said:

Mines currently 7.
Today during the BBQ she asked a question I wasn’t prepared for

“Dad, were did the first people come from”
”eh, you what?”
”well if all babies become adults and only adults can have babies, then where did the first babies come from?”

”er, here do you want some chicken?”

two beers in and not prepared.

Should have offered her eggs, not chicken

warhead · September 2023

My daughter has just turned 15 this Thursday. And I don't know what to do with her.....she thought she was fat and has started starving herself out, eating literally 150 to 200 calories on a good day. She's turning into a shadow and is still not happy with her weight. Or, she might be happy, but still won't start eating more "as she will get fat again". Her only friend ended up in a hospital a couple of days ago for not eating too, and is in a very serious condition, the outcome is uncertain. She is the best in her class in everything except PE, takes piano classes, plays guitar too. I've considered her to be very shy and with problems in socializing, but a confident person with a mind of her own. And then I see how wrong I was and how low her self esteem is.

Kittyfrisk · September 2023

warhead said:

My daughter has just turned 15 this Thursday. And I don't know what to do with her.....she thought she was fat and has started starving herself out, eating literally 150 to 200 calories on a good day. She's turning into a shadow and is still not happy with her weight. Or, she might be happy, but still won't start eating more "as she will get fat again". Her only friend ended up in a hospital a couple of days ago for not eating too, and is in a very serious condition, the outcome is uncertain. She is the best in her class in everything except PE, takes piano classes, plays guitar too. I've considered her to be very shy and with problems in socializing, but a confident person with a mind of her own. And then I see how wrong I was and how low her self esteem is.

I'm so sorry to hear about your family situation.
Not making a diagnosis here, but I worked with a person for years who was a very high achieving, super smart, hilarious individual that just happened to disagree with everyone else about how she felt/looked. She did have medical help, so I hope that you can find a point where you can relate to your daughter & find a way forward.
* Just wondering if this topic might not be safer in 'Friends & Family" ?

grungebob · September 2023

@warhead that sounds a truly very difficult situation and I hope for everyone’s sake she can get the help it would seem she needs. I wish you the best and hope you can find resolution.

rlw · September 2023

Thank God I never had kids is all I can say.

Client of mine, young firmly Jewish father of two very pretty girls, spent half his time in the office talking to one or other of them, giving them lectures on which boys were, and which boys were not, suitable company and which events they might attend together.

To say he was worried sick about the first one leaving home for uni, would be not doing the situation justice.

I had to laugh, and I knew what he meant, when he said " I know what teenage boys are like; I was one once and I wouldn't let either of my daughters go out with me"

Life is hard enough.

Winny_Pooh · September 2023

@warhead said:

My daughter has just turned 15 this Thursday. And I don't know what to do with her.....she thought she was fat and has started starving herself out, eating literally 150 to 200 calories on a good day. She's turning into a shadow and is still not happy with her weight. Or, she might be happy, but still won't start eating more "as she will get fat again". Her only friend ended up in a hospital a couple of days ago for not eating too, and is in a very serious condition, the outcome is uncertain. She is the best in her class in everything except PE, takes piano classes, plays guitar too. I've considered her to be very shy and with problems in socializing, but a confident person with a mind of her own. And then I see how wrong I was and how low her self esteem is.

Please take her to a therapist who deals with eating disorders. In teenage girls it usually happens in peer groups collectively.

mgaw · September 2023

warhead said:

My daughter has just turned 15 this Thursday. And I don't know what to do with her.....she thought she was fat and has started starving herself out, eating literally 150 to 200 calories on a good day. She's turning into a shadow and is still not happy with her weight. Or, she might be happy, but still won't start eating more "as she will get fat again". Her only friend ended up in a hospital a couple of days ago for not eating too, and is in a very serious condition, the outcome is uncertain. She is the best in her class in everything except PE, takes piano classes, plays guitar too. I've considered her to be very shy and with problems in socializing, but a confident person with a mind of her own. And then I see how wrong I was and how low her self esteem is.

One of my 17 year olds friends is in a very bad place with an eating disorder, I would strongly advise getting her help ASAP, they definitely operate in clusters as well. Unfortunately there is loads of it about Mrs Mgaw is a GP and sees quite a few similar aged girls presenting with similar signs as your daughter. I would contact your GP but also her school should have a pastoral team in place who could point you to the right services.

help can be thin on the ground unfortunately due to constant cut backs etc

all the best good help sought early is a big advantage.

mgaw · September 2023

One further point if I may, it’s very important to understand that eating disorders are a serious mental health issue very often it’s a need to feel some ‘control’

munckee · September 2023

rlw said:

Thank God I never had kids is all I can say.

Client of mine, young firmly Jewish father of two very pretty girls, spent half his time in the office talking to one or other of them, giving them lectures on which boys were, and which boys were not, suitable company and which events they might attend together.

To say he was worried sick about the first one leaving home for uni, would be not doing the situation justice.

I had to laugh, and I knew what he meant, when he said " I know what teenage boys are like; I was one once and I wouldn't let either of my daughters go out with me"

Life is hard enough.

My daughter is going to uni on 23rd September. I’m very sad for me about her not being around but I’m excited for her and told her to go and have all the fun she can and have a ball.

DefaultM · September 2023

digitalscream said:

Offset said:

digitalscream said:

Axe_meister said:

Yeah my step daughter has just rejoined the human race at 24. She left when she was 14.

This is pretty much my experience. She actually had a couple of years in the middle when she left home in a hail of bullets, moved to her grandmother's, and they both tried to convince my wife that I had a whole other family. She actually worked at the same company as me (a job that I got her), and said it was well-known that I only worked two days a week and the rest of the time I was in Nottingham with the other family.

I worked 100% from home. As did my wife.

Oh, the absolute corker - apparently I had Swiss bank accounts making me independently wealthy, but I'd only spend that money on the other family.

I mean...where the fuck did I find the time for all this? And where the hell has all my money gone?

Errrm... do you still talk to her grandmother?!

Don't take this the wrong way, but...thankfully, she's dead.

Honestly, she was the nastiest, most hateful evil person I've ever encountered in person. She's the one who fed all that crap to our daughter over a period of years to set it all up. She spent 20 years trying to split us up, and 45 years ruining my wife's life.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg (probably not a story for this thread).

Sounds like my MiL, but unfortunately she's still alive.

Hootsmon · September 2023

My mum pushing my wee sister in a pram up a hill......"God, I'm out of puff"

My wee sister tae mum......"You'll get one when we get tae Grans"

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