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RULES UPDATE: Rule #2, "Don't be nasty"

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digitalscreamdigitalscream Frets: 25239
edited March 2023 in Help & Feedback
OK, there's been an awful lot of direct abuse on the site, with attempts to flout the lighter-touch we tend to apply in some off-topic areas, and the fact that we don't police PMs.

We're changing that now, because there are simply too many people who think that this kind of attack is perfectly OK; it's not, and it's in direct opposition to the spirit of the rules...so we've changed the rules to make it more explicit:

2. Don’t be nasty. That means being personally and deliberately insulting, aggressive or vindictive towards any other member or group. This absolutely includes being abusive, and it includes sending direct messages for the purpose of abusing somebody.

Since I know that some will want to rules-lawyer their way around this, and that there are more than a few who think "He started it!" excuses their behaviour, I want to make this clear: that will not fly.

We're going to be tracking these offences, because they happen so often. There is a simple escalation of sanctions attached to this:

1 - Warning
2 - Cooler (1 week)
3 - Cooler (2 weeks)
4 - Ban.

Here are some recent examples of comments that will trigger this process:

"You're a cunt"
"Fuck you, you fucking moron"
"Go fuck yourself"
...etc etc

You may spot a theme here, but please be under no illusion that this is specific to naughty words. We will read it if it's flagged (and sometimes even if it's not), and we will make a determination one way or the other, and that will be final.

In short, "Play the ball, not the man".

If we end up in a situation where the "But he started it!" defence is applied, then there are two possibilities:

1 - Everybody involved goes to the next step of the above sanctions.
2 - It looks like the accused is just trying to get other people in trouble after they overreacted/screwed up/etc, in which case they skip a step and get closer to a full ban.

Now, if you've read through this and you're thinking of ways you can game the system, then consider the fact that most people on here just want this to be a nice place they can use to talk to their mates and other like-minded people, or have a good debate without it getting personal, or some combination thereof.

If your first instinct is to try to figure out a way around the rules, you're just ruining it for everybody else and you should either have a stern word with yourself or leave, because you're simply not welcome here.

Having read and taken all of that on board, you should also bear in mind that The Rob Chapman Rule is still in effect - do not post anything about celebrities etc that you wouldn't be able to write about a forum member. 
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  • paulnb57paulnb57 Frets: 2884
    Good to see the change
    I really dont get why folk have to resort to abuse here or anywhere else…seems to be on the increase in society as a whole, baffles me…..
    Just a shame the mods have more to deal with, for which I am grateful for your efforts..
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  • TeleMasterTeleMaster Frets: 9175
    edited November 2021
    I have to say that this is a good, positive change. It appears that some have been hiding behind the amnesty of PMs for a while. It will make things more civil all round. 
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  • Is it till OK to abuse someone using your second account? ;) 

    But seriously, this is a positive step. Far too many people being abusive from the safety of a keyboard on here. 

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  • VimFuegoVimFuego Frets: 14862
    well I'm still a cunt and no amount of rules is gonna change that!

    I'm not locked in here with you, you are locked in here with me.

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  • VimFuego said:
    well I'm still a cunt and no amount of rules is gonna change that!
    Hmmm. Nothing in the new rule against self-flagellation, so I'll let that pass.
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  • Is self abuse still ok - just want to clarify.

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  • VimFuegoVimFuego Frets: 14862
    Is self abuse still ok - just want to clarify.
    only if you get written consent and attend a compulsory sensitivity course afterwards.

    I'm not locked in here with you, you are locked in here with me.

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  • I have to say that this is a good, positive change. It appears that some have been hiding behind the amnesty of PMs for a while. It will make things more civil all round. 
    The thing is...we don't look at PMs except for legal reasons. However, we will respond to reports of abuse by PM; it stands to reason that if you're sending somebody an abusive PM, the relationship between both parties is now such that the recipient has a good reason for reporting it, so it's really not a good idea.
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  • sev112sev112 Frets: 2457
    I would love to see overt aggressive / bullying type posts, especially when there is a gang up / group jump on a poster.  But that’s much harder to police
    But this is an excellent move and I thank and credit you all for doing / saying this 
    well done
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  • tone1tone1 Frets: 4930

    Having read and taken all of that on board, you should also bear in mind that The Rob Chapman Rule is still in effect - do not post anything about celebrities etc that you wouldn't be able to write about a forum member.

    phew….that’s a relief  =)

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  • HootsmonHootsmon Frets: 15657
    What if the guy is a fuckin' moron?
    tae be or not tae be
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  • TeleMasterTeleMaster Frets: 9175
    edited November 2021
    Hootsmon said:
    What if the guy is a fuckin' moron?
    Put them on ignore and actually ignore them.
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  • FunkfingersFunkfingers Frets: 13312
    "You're a cunt"
    "Fuck you, you fucking moron"
    "Go fuck yourself" 
    etc.
    Those are all normal Glaswegian greetings between friends and family.
    Be seeing you.
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  • fandangofandango Frets: 2202
    OK, there's been an awful lot of direct abuse on the site, with attempts to flout the lighter-touch we tend to apply in some off-topic areas, and the fact that we don't police PMs.

    We're changing that now, because there are simply too many people who think that this kind of attack is perfectly OK; it's not, and it's in direct opposition to the spirit of the rules...so we've changed the rules to make it more explicit:

    2. Don’t be nasty. That means being personally and deliberately insulting, aggressive or vindictive towards any other member or group. This absolutely includes being abusive, and it includes sending direct messages for the purpose of abusing somebody.

    Since I know that some will want to rules-lawyer their way around this, and that there are more than a few who think "He started it!" excuses their behaviour, I want to make this clear: that will not fly.

    We're going to be tracking these offences, because they happen so often. There is a simple escalation of sanctions attached to this:

    [...]

    You may spot a theme here, but please be under no illusion that this is specific to naughty words. We will read it if it's flagged (and sometimes even if it's not), and we will make a determination one way or the other, and that will be final.

    In short, "Play the ball, not the man".

    [...]

    Having read and taken all of that on board, you should also bear in mind that The Rob Chapman Rule is still in effect - do not post anything about celebrities etc that you wouldn't be able to write about a forum member.



    Well, well, well ..... not before time.

    'Playing the man, not the ball' was prevalent well before I took a sabbatical.

    Seeing this post from DS gives me some hope for TFB. Let's see how it pans out.


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  • mrkbmrkb Frets: 5594
    "You're a cunt"
    "Fuck you, you fucking moron"
    "Go fuck yourself" 
    etc.
    Those are all normal Glaswegian greetings between friends and family.
    I think that might be considered racist. Might be worth rephrasing.
    Karma......
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  • I have zero problem with this.

    Bye!

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  • Emp_FabEmp_Fab Frets: 23224
    Excellent move Lee.  For too long threads that otherwise contain good debate end up being closed because a small handful of folk are seemingly incapable of expressing disagreement on the subject without resorting to personal abuse, resulting in no further discussion for the rest.
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  • Yeah Lee, I agree with Kev. Excellent move.

    Bye!

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  • poopotpoopot Frets: 9089
    Excellent idea. Will hopefully stop a lot of bitching!..
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  • MellishMellish Frets: 945
    To my mind anything that enforces a friendly forum is worthy of support, so I wish it well :) 
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  • Absolutely! We should all be friends here.

    Bye!

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  • Hootsmon said:
    What if the guy is a fuckin' moron?
    Check terms and conditions of forum use.

    Idiots are everywhere but that doesn't mean that it's ok to shoot them. Same thing on here, only with words... 

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  • Amazing you actually need a rule about this really...... 
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  • danodano Frets: 1484
    Without resorting to words like fuck, fucking, fucker, cunt and moron, how do you win an argument on the Internet ?


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  • bertiebertie Frets: 12145
    dano said:
    Without resorting to words like fuck, fucking, fucker, cunt and moron, how do you win an argument on the Internet ?


    pixies
    just because you don't, doesn't mean you can't
     just because you do, doesn't mean you should.
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  • mrkb said:
    "You're a cunt"
    "Fuck you, you fucking moron"
    "Go fuck yourself" 
    etc.
    Those are all normal Glaswegian greetings between friends and family.
    I think that might be considered racist. Might be worth rephrasing.
    Speaking as an ex-pat Weegee, I can assure you it's actually pretty accurate.

    Me and my brothers regularly used to refer to each other - face to face, mind, not behind anyone's back - as (and I'm not making this up) such things as 'cuntlugs', 'fanny baws', 'fud face' and more.

    As such terms could now be termed misogynistic, and we have (sort of) grown up a bit since, we no longer use any of these terms, but the respectable veneer that has replaced them is really pretty damn thin.
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  • danodano Frets: 1484
    Is it allowed to post something like the following ?

    "The person posting in the comment below is a fucking moron"

     B) 
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  • I think if you all focused on being more friendly, this could be a great forum. Maybe even develop some sorely missing industry contacts, and maybe have ... I dunno, an Andertons sponsorship or something. They could have banners all over the place, and we could get some minor discounts, and all it would take is for you lot to be a bit nicer.

    Bye!

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  • sev112sev112 Frets: 2457
    Blimey 
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  • What about all the snide, passive-agressive, golf clap stuff? For example the horse de-wormer thread is full of it.

    I think sometimes that kind of stuff is nastier than the sweary stuff.
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